The most difficult time for girls is transitional age. It is at this stage that parents should show increased sensitivity, attention and tact. As a rule, transitional age helps to lay the foundation for future relationships with parents.
They can be a real stumbling block, and can be the best friend, comrade, person who always listens and supports. Parents should understand that hormones often control a girl during this period, which she cannot fight.
Therefore, it is worthwhile to carefully study the peculiarities of the transitional age so as not to lose contact with the child, to establish relationships and help to survive the difficult life period.
Borders of transitional age in girls
Doctors distinguish the onset of transitional age in boys and girls. According to research data, in boys it comes much later. Girls come to this stage earlier. But at the same time, individual features are always taken into account.
There is no clear boundary for transitional age. About her designate for girls from 10 to 16 years. But there are cases of early puberty, which begins at 8-9 years and ends at 12-13 years.
Despite the fact that researchers do not name the exact age, they indicate the boundaries within which puberty should take place in girls.
Signs of transitional age in girls
There are lots of signs that will help parents understand that the girl is gradually turning into a girl.
- The development of a large number of hormones that stimulate the growth and development of the child. Often at this time you can notice a jump in growth and weight.
- Hips become more rounded, feminine. The shape becomes less angular and sharp, acquiring increasingly smooth outlines.
- The formation of the mammary glands.
- Hair more often and faster get dirty, look greasy.
- The skin is shiny.
- Often there are rashes on the skin in the area of the nose, forehead and chin.
- In the armpits appear hair.
- The first menstruation.
Such abrupt changes in the state of the body are reflected in the psycho-emotional background. For example, a teenager becomes more irritable, nervous, unsure of himself. In addition, the girl is not accustomed to her new body. She has to experience constant self-restraint and self-doubt.
The task of the mother, in the first place, at this point to explain that this is a normal physiological development, nothing terrible about it.
Physiology of transitional age
The adolescent period finds itself in both psychological and physiological changes. First of all, we notice that the child begins to change externally. Often, it is these changes that lead to psychological problems.
Starting from the age of 11, the thyroid gland begins to work actively in girls. It produces specific hormones that directly affect the puberty of the body. The pituitary gland is produced - it is a hormone that is responsible for growth and development.
From the age of 10, the pelvic bones begin to expand slowly, but from the age of 12-13, they already become overgrown with additional fatty tissue. Accordingly, the child’s figure becomes softer and more feminine. Sharp and angular lines are gradually disappearing.
From 11-12 years old, hair growth is increased (armpits, pubic area, legs and arms).
The girl during the entire period of puberty becomes more feminine. But for many, this is depressing due to excessive self-criticism.
Due to the fact that there is an increased production of the pituitary gland - a thyroid hormone, it becomes much more difficult for a child to cope with it. In connection with hormonal changes in girls, sexuality is growing, which is recognized by someone immediately, and by someone she hides and carefully hides.
Due to the level of estrogen in the blood there is a growth of adipose tissue by 20%, which cannot be perceived positively. During the pubertal period, an increase in the size of the heart is observed exactly 2 times.
How can parents help a girl cope with transitional age?
The time of adolescence is difficult for any child. Psychologists believe that abrupt changes in the body are directly reflected on the psycho-emotional state. Parents should support and understand their daughter during this period.
A teenager is a difficult transitional age, when you no longer position yourself as a child, but at the same time you are not yet accepted by adults. This alienation for many is the basis for the depressive state.
Solving psychological problems of transition age
Of course, scientists do not deny that hormonal changes affect the psychological state of the girl. But they are sure that with the right approach of the parents, the child will not have any problems at all during puberty.
For this you need:
- Watch for a full and healthy sleep - no matter how surprising it may seem, but it is very important during this period of time.
It is necessary for the body to rest, relax and gain strength as much as possible.
- Constant movement, active life position - the more classes a child has, the less head will be filled with bad thoughts.
Send your daughter to dance, yoga or swimming classes. Be sure to gently find out what she would like to do.
- Active rest - make sure that the rest is not always held only at the computer and TV.
Send your daughter to play outside with friends. If your daughter does not have a company, then be sure to be her. To do this, you can walk in the park or ride on a sled, go to the river.
- In that case, if there are frequent changes of mood, unreasonable crying and depression, then you should seek help from an endocrinologist.
His task is to observe such adolescents who cannot cope with their hormonal background.
Depression in adolescence
The most serious condition in a teenager is depression. At this time for the girl everything looks in black. If you notice that the daughter is constantly sad and apathetic, speaks in a quiet voice and shows no interest in anything, then this is a reason to get worried. Often, adolescents during this period commit suicide.
In order to avoid such grief in your own family, you should talk to your daughter, find out the causes of anxiety, and offer the help of a psychologist. Often, only a specialist can solve the problem. But all your support should be light and unobtrusive.
Sexuality and sexuality readiness
The most pressing issue. At the same time, the problem is that the parents refuse to talk to their child, feeling embarrassed and embarrassed. This is a completely wrong approach.
In addition, it is unacceptable to create maximum limits for your child. You must give him freedom, but at the same time tell him what is behind it.
That is, the girl should know that early sex life leads to aging, abortion, sexually transmitted diseases and unnecessary gossip. Believe in your child. He has his own head on his shoulders, but still it is worth securing him by telling him that he has an early sex life behind him.
It is very difficult to maintain and improve relationships in puberty for girls. Often parents tighten their control, or vice versa, do not pay any attention. It is necessary to find the right golden medium.
After all, the child must understand that his best friends are parents with whom he can share his most intimate secrets. And parents should be at the time of transition in girls with patience, tenderness and sensitivity.